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Jacqui Lumer, MFT

San Francisco Sex Therapist, Individual & Couples Counselor

We all face challenges in our lives that can benefit from the guidance of a compassionate therapist. These times can be an opportunity to expand our thinking and heal our past. I invite you to begin a better way to connect with yourself, your partner and family to improve the quality of your life. When life's transitions and circumstances are addressed in therapy, my client's feel better equipped to make change. I provide the tools and interventions that are specific to your needs and draw from an integrative approach for healing of the self and in context of relationship. When we heal and understand ourselves, we can better interact in the world.

I tailor my approach to best suit my clients' needs with a collaborative approach, whether I am doing couples counseling, sex therapy  or trauma work with individuals.

Throughout my education, licensure, and personal growth, my primarily focus has been couples counseling, family therapy and individuals with relationship issues. I have worked with kids, their parents, divorce, blended families, partner’s with depression or anxiety, but always through the lens of Object Relations and attachment-based modalities, such as IMAGO and Emotionally Focused Therapy. I draw tools from Gottman methods and Non-Violent Communication and Mindfulness-based CBT. And am always deepening my knowledge within the framework of relationships, such as the current efforts towards a sex therapy certification. With a dual-masters degree that included Art Therapy, my thesis was to create empathy between a couple using a directive to address Family of Origin issues and attachment style. I am also trained in EMDR for healing trauma and faulty beliefs and relational blocks.


  • EMDR for trauma
  • Art Therapy for right-brain access
  •  Mindfulness-based Cognitive Therapy
  • Object Relations


  • Emotionally-Focused Therapy
  • IMAGO and attachment style
  • Non-Violent Communication
  • Gottman methods
  •  Sexuality

Jacqueline Lumer has a dual-masters in Counseling Psychology and Art Therapy from Norte Dame de Namur in 2009. Certification in Sex Therapy through The American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) and California Institute of Integral Studies (in progress, expected 2018)

Her clinical experience includes a family counseling center, an educational setting, a cancer treatment center, and now, in private practice in San Francisco. She has taught parenting classes and worked with developmentally challenged children and their families. She has helped the terminally ill with emotional relief through poetry and art and developed an art therapy directive for couples to increase empathy. Jacqui enjoys working with many types of clients with whom she can collaborate with--there is nothing more rewarding than to bare witness to someone's growth and potential. It is not the struggles or successes that define your life, but how you hold them within you.