Transformational Sexuality & Relationship Coaching

I have helped hundreds of partners & individuals connect to their authentic Sexuality & Love Needs.

-Pej, Intimacy Counselor

Pej is passionate about supporting couples to utilize their most engrained conflicts in the most positive and powerful way to enhance each other’s personal growth and transform the angry and combative feelings into passionate feelings of relationship vitality.

TRANSFORMATIONAL SEXUALITY & Relationship COACHING

San Francisco Transformational Relationship and Sexuality Coaching is a dynamic, powerful and fast approach to sexuality and partnership development. TSC helps in:

• Deepening emotional and sexual empathy, awareness and connection

• Navigating trigger moments to move into a place of mutual resolution and understanding

• Using conflict to empower each partner's self growth

• Heighten Emotional & Sexual Intelligence

• Communication mastery / Conflict mastery

• Increasing Passion, Pleasure & Intimacy

• Embodying Joy, Desire and Love

Pej works with couples (polyam partners also), as well as individuals and has offices in Oakland, Berkeley, and Online.

San Francisco Intimacy & Relationship Coaching & Couples CounselinG

I'm Passionate About...

being in Right Relationship! As a Certified Relationship / Life Coach and Trained Gottman Counselor, I help deepen intimacy, heal disconnection, improve communication, and enliven passion for couples. 

With over a decade of experience supporting individuals and couples in their personal development, I bring a rich array of tools to help with anxiety, depression, addiction, PTSD, relationship challenges and career challenges. Ultimately, I strive to empower the uniqueness of each person to lead a fulfilling life. 

Our talented Relationship Transformation & Life Coach, Pej Mon, works extensively with difficult relationship dynamics such as challenging communication patterns, ongoing arguments & conflicts, regulating and healing emotions, repairing intimacy & trust, repairing from infidelity, romantic attachment challenges, premarital counseling, male performance anxiety, sex and drug addiction, amongst others. He works with the full range of clients and is passionate about supporting the LGBTQ+ and POC communities as well.

Pej is a Certified Life Coach through the Coaches Training Institute and has extensive training in highly effective counseling and coaching modalities such as Gottman Method of Couples Counseling, Evolving Love Coaching Method, Non-Violent Communication, Mindfulness-Based Somatic Processing, Hakomi, Transformational and Transcendental Meditation. He has also studied with some of the top coaches and thought leaders including (Bryan Franklin, Michael Nagler, Jennifer Russell, amongst many others). Pej has worked with couples and individuals for over a decade and is known for achieving powerful and fast results. He has training around sexuality issues via Dr. Carol Queen and Dr. Robert Morgan Lawrence.

Transformation Coaching with Pej:

Life and Relationship Coaching, Somatic Based Emotional Mindfulness & Gottman Method Couples Counseling in Berkeley, San Francisco, and Online Sessions

His work helps couples and families with:

• Deepening Empathy & Connection

• Navigating Emotional Triggers

• Using Conflict to Transform the Couple

• Empower and Support Each Individual’s Personal Growth

• Crisis intervention 

• Healing Relationship Rupture and Trust

• Communication Mastery 

• Increasing Passion & Sexual Polarity

• Successfully navigating polyamory / consensual non-monogamy

• How to be in Right (mindful) Relationship (for Couples, Colleagues, Families, Friends)

His work helps individuals with: 

• Healing Mental Illness (Anxiety, Depression, Addiction, PTSD, Childhood Trauma)

• Living on Purpose with your Career/Mission

• Clearing Out Blocks Holding You Back

• How to be in Right Relationship (w/Self, Romantic Partner, Colleagues, Families, Friends)

• Spiritual and Emotional Fulfillment 

My belief is that relationships are the most important part of life. Life is relationship! So nothing can be more fulfilling than being in right relationship with everything in one’s life. First and foremost comes an individual’s relationship to themselves and their romantic partner. What happens when one is out of right relationship with oneself is mental illness (anxiety, depression, addiction, ptsd). What happens when one is out of right relationship with a partner is conflict and emotional pain. 

It is absolutely absurd to me that our schools and education systems do not make it a priority to teach us the skills of relationship. I had to embark on my own path to learn hpw to have thriving relationships and personal fulfillment. I’ve spent 15 years in the spiritual / therapeutic / coaching world studying and training in everything I can get my hands on and 10 of those years working with clients privately as well. 

For couples, I say let’s get in the relationship gym and practice the art of relationship! To be strong in relationship we must practice and grow the muscles of communication, connection, conflict transformation, and emotional healing. I especially encourage and help foster deep vulnerability. It’s not always easy when there are emotional wounds and disconnection, but it’s always a richly rewarding experience to move in the direction of greater awareness, honesty, and connection.

I help couples create safe and supportive emotional spaces so that they can talk about even the most challenging topics and find a greater sense of connection, understanding, and love. 

In the sessions we get practical experience on how to set up and practice intentional dialogue. I work and support each individual to both express their emotions at the deepest level and also support them in being the most powerful listener that they can be. It’s amazing what can happen when we create natural and safe spaces for communication. Only then can we heal and repair and take our intimacy to inspiring heights. 

I also bring deep reflection to the couple. In my years of witnessing couples, I’ve found familiar patterns or areas of looping ‘stuckness’ in the relationship. Whether this be in terms of attachment dynamics, masculine / feminine energetics, or typical communication breakdown patterns. In understanding the patterns clearly, the couple can make shifts more easily. When necessary, I also bring practical tips or strategies that I’ve learned from the relationship masters that I have studied with to create the ideal day to day culture in the relationship. 

Facilitating an open and shame free sexual conversation and embodiment.

 I believe to have a thriving sex life we must be able to talk about it with our partner directly and honestly, and feel safe to explore with each other what feels right. By slowing down, being mindful and understanding our partner’s needs and our own, we can create exciting and healing experiences. 

Client - Coach relationship is sacred. 

I feel incredibly grateful to be a part of my client’s lives to witness them in their most vulnerable and most empowered moments. I view the relationship as truly something to be held with the highest respect and care. There is a saying that every moment is every moment. In that spirit, I find my own practice is to be 100% present with what is happening in each session so that I can truly connect to my clients and create the right container to support their highest good. I find this to be exhilarating work which really cuts to the core of why we are alive and what really lights us up.

Each individual deserves to lead a passionate and fulfilling life. 

In my sessions with individual clients, I like to think of myself akin to a tuning fork. I help identify the parts of them that are in dissonance to their highest self in order to heal and release them. This is the processing work of releasing the traumas from the past, healing the mental illnesses, or negative beliefs, habits, and patterns, that are holding one back. Then we identify the resonance or that that which is who they truly are at their best, in order to grow and nurture those parts. I have a wide array of tools that I bring for this including inner child work, somatic therapies, meditations, emotional mindfulness, and much more. The benefit of working with a coach is that not only do we heal and release the past like therapy, but I bring in the tools to help increase your passion, excitement and what really lights you up. This involves connecting to your higher self, unlocking your passion, and being who you truly know you can be in a moment to moment embodied presence. 

Alongside coaching, I’ve also had and continue to have a fulfilling career as a musician and I know what it takes to achieve at a high performance level. I know everyone is capable of finding that spot within themselves, and it’s my excitement to help each individual on their unique path. Let’s collaborate on your greatest challenge: living and being your deepest authentic self!

-- Pej

IF THERE IS ONE THING I’M PASSIONATE ABOUT IT’S PASSION!

But that's not where this story begins. At birth the societal and familial programming began, as the expectations and beliefs of my parents and culture unknowingly became my own. Ideas of duty, being realistic, and what a "successful" and "good" person should do settled in and the glowing aliveness of my child self dimmed. The decades long inner struggle manifested. Through repression and questioning of my passion and the resulting depression, confusion, self-sabotage, inner conflict and incongruence I was finally through sheer relentless questioning and searching for truth led to the skills and tools of self transformation.

I now believe the tools that are the most powerful are the ones that allow you to truly KNOW and BE Thyself. I’ve been so tirelessly committed to learning these tools that one could say I’m like the Sherlock Holmes of limiting beliefs / false thinking / non-aligned action. I’ve studied and been certified in many modalities (CTI Coaching, Kingian Conflict Resolution, Gandhi-an Nonviolence, Recode Transformation, AstroPsychology, amongst others) and they have unlocked my intuitive sensing that I bring to each session.

When you choose to transform with me, you will have someone by your side ready to reflect anything out of alignment with a magnifying, undeterred lens. You can then tune your consciousness to your higher self and be the living embodiment of who you really are. It doesn’t have to be painful. It can be not just easy, but incredibly exhilarating.

Ironically, the more we individuate and dance to the beat of our own drum, the more we fit with and inspire others. When enough of us make this choice, we can truly harmonize on a large scale, and the symphonic resonance of a world in bliss can finally be heard.

So, are you ready to be your true self? If not, you may have found your next most relevant obstacle.

-Pej