About Elena

Elena Letourneau

Elena Letourneau is a Certified Sex & Relationship Coach with a background in Counseling Psychology and Socio-Cultural Studies. She offers culturally competent, trauma-informed coaching and pleasure-based sex education for individuals, couples, and small groups.

Her work centers on developing emotional, erotic, and relational literacy—practical skills that help people connect more deeply, communicate more effectively, and navigate relationships with greater integrity. Her approach is rooted in the belief that while insight is valuable, lasting change comes from embodied practice. She guides clients in developing the skills, practices, and mindset necessary to cultivate agency, enjoyment, and exceptionally satisfying relationships.

Working with Elena

Private coaching is available for individuals and couples through bi-weekly sessions. This work resonates most with people who want depth over quick fixes, appreciate intellectual rigor alongside emotional exploration, and welcome being challenged.

Elena also offers Relational Literacy intensives and packages as an entry point to working with her. The four-part series includes Emotional Literacy, Erotic Literacy (The Psychology of Sex), Relational Boundaries, and The Rules of Engagement (communication framework). These intensives provide an accessible way to experience Elena's approach, with the option to transition into ongoing private coaching if the fit is right.

Rather than offering simple answers or one-size-fits-all advice, Elena supports clients in navigating the complex, evolving nature of modern relationships. Private practice availability is limited.

Focus Areas

Relationships & Communication

Communication challenges and repair after rupture

Desire discrepancies and sexual intimacy

Boundary work and relational structures

Creating strong foundations in new partnerships 

Rediscovering connection in long-term relationships

Sexuality & Embodiment

Sex and sexuality education

Embodiment and erotic awareness

How to talk about sex: practically and seductively

Fantasy, desire, and sexual boundaries

Shifting from pathology to possibility

Impacts of trauma on relationships and intimacy

Personal Growth

Cultivating a compassionate inner witness

Shifting unhelpful patterns and strategies

Navigating and processing difficult emotions and experiences

Discovering what brings you authentic joy and pleasure

Getting really good at being who you are

Specialized Contexts

Consensual non-monogamy, open relationships, kink exploration

LGBTQ+ relationships and identity

Cross-cultural relationships

Addiction and disordered behaviors

Postpartum intimacy and sexuality

Parenting and family dynamics

Loss, grief, and major life transitions

Purpose and meaning in work and creative life

“The attachment and somatic based modalities I utilize are comprised of holistic, compassionate and systematic approaches to Intimacy, sexuality and relationship coaching.”

-Elena

In our work together, I support people to:

• Move beyond shame, get into their bodies and connect to their birthright of pleasure and connection.

• Learn to drop into empowered erotic embodiment and own their sexuality

• Experience authentic and emotionally connected relationships to self and others

• Identify and express their needs, desires and boundaries

• Enjoy the pleasure, fulfillment and satisfaction of intimate and amazing sexual relationships

• Learn to cultivate healthy secure attachment in your partnership(s)

• I guide you through a comprehensive and systematic approach to learning the skills needed to be connected and authentic in intimate partnerships and sexual relationships.

• Working through a trauma-informed lens, that is experiential, collaborative, pleasure-based method rooted in the latest cutting edge neuroscience research about attachment and bonding (or how people connect, bond, learn and experience transformative healing).

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I chose to pursue coaching after two years with a gifted couple’s therapist that was amazing in every aspect except human sexuality. At the time I was also studying to get a Master’s in Counseling Psychology. Somatic Based Sexuality Coaching training offered what was missing in both and I took a leap that would transform my personal and professional life.

My personal story is not uncommon. After years in long term partnership and becoming a mother, I lost touch with myself as a sexual person. Culturally, we have a huge deficit in accurate and comprehensive sex education, not to mention healthy relating. My partner and I lacked the knowledge and skills required to sustain desire and arousal in our long term relationship. In addition to this, it was difficult to avoid the subtle and not so subtle messages that imply that motherhood and sexuality are not compatible. I was pretty shameless about sex in my single years – I enjoyed it and felt entitled to pleasure. When I realized that I had lost my connection to and desire for sex, it was a disorienting blow to my sense of identity.

In the process of studying and practicing Somatic Sexuality Coaching, I rediscovered my shame-free sexual self and found my way to a profound feeling of aliveness. In the process I have become softer, more resilient, brave, and vulnerable. My lived experience has made it all the more fulfilling because I now also have the capacity for deeper connection and intimacy in my partnerships.

Having experienced the transformation that is possible, I knew this work was mine to do in the world. Somatic Based Sexuality Coaching offers a different opportunity for growth than traditional therapy. With the focus on experiential learning, sexuality and eroticism, and authentic relating, change can happen more quickly and more effectively. It is my sincere pleasure to have received and now offer the support, skills, and connection that bring joy and choice into every aspect of life, and in particular the vital experiences of sex and intimacy.

As your practitioner, I bring compassion, presence, and authenticity. I am committed to being mindful, honoring your boundaries and readiness, and respecting your privacy and confidentiality.

I am excited by the potential for how much we can learn together, how fully we can love ourselves and one another, and the possibilities this opens for transformation of individuals, relationships, and society.

I have offices in San Francisco, Oakland, San Jose and Berkeley. I am not currently accepting clients in San Jose. I also offer online video sessions.

Elena Letourneau, MA, Certified Somatic Sexuality Coach

ELENA LETOURNEAU, MA,

SOMATIC & ATTACHMENT-BASED METHOD OF INTIMACY & SEX COACHING & SAN FRANCISCO BAY AREA SEX THERAPIST

San Francisco Bay Area, East Bay, South Bay & Napa Valley Couples Counseling, Sex Therapy & Relationship Coaching